The patriarchy-dismantling power of female vanity
Vanity is a misogynistic charge (often internalized) emanating from a anti-beauty, anti-pleasure, anti-art, anti-sex American Calvinist tradition. Aside from extremeRead more.
What people get wrong about teaching
I find myself teaching a lot nowadays. Here is what I am learning about teaching. The most common mistake madeRead more.
I am a total FRAUD
(gratuitous image of Nigella Lawson because in my mind, I am/look like her, and that has been true since IRead more.
What I Learned from Drawing One Black Woman a Day
(This essay is my contribution to Sas Pethetick’s International Women’s Day Project, Voices Rising.) The biggest anxiety attacks happenRead more.
$3,800 goes to NAACP & ACLU
I’ve been procrastinating writing this post because it’s almost been too overwhelming and I don’t know how to begin toRead more.
Coloring for the Resistance — Black History Month Project
To celebrate Black History Month, I decided to illustrate one inspiring Black woman a day, for the entire month of February 2017.Read more.
7 surprising truths about creativity
Surprising to me, you see. —— 1. Do it all for the joy. It’s okay and normal to enjoy and feel energizedRead more.
Willy Loman, Mary Oliver and the real story of joy
I’ve been collecting notes to do an essay on the theme of suffering in art. For it, I had theRead more.
Henri Rousseau and the tropical heart of darkness
Why you should care: A French dude by the name of Henri Rousseau (not to be confused with Jean JacquesRead more.
Seurat and Signac: Where does the pointilist lens aim?
(I keep hearing people don’t care about high art. I don’t really buy that. I do think that art education isRead more.
Full-length, English-subtitled Operas on Youtube
Vincenzo Bellini – Norma Bizet – Carmen (not great quality due to being from the 80’s, but worth it forRead more.
Bizet’s Carmen, the Spanish “belle dame sans merci”
One of the most thrilling facts to me today that makes me hopeful about the future of humanity isRead more.
Talking to Joe Loya: the power of story & freedom from solitary confinement
A while ago, my wonderful friend Amy Gutman did me the great favor of introducing me to Joe Loya. When Amy introducesRead more.
The opposite of despair
Poets are hard. To talk to them, I have to get honest, drop some of the drama, hush the piousRead more.
Tricolor Mary: Encountering 3 Faces of the Divine Feminine
Mary in White I always felt curiously distant from the figure of Mary. I always sensed that there is so much there andRead more.
Review of The Sparrow: Does God give a damn?
Warning: Don’t read this review if you want to read this book (which I cannot recommend more highly if beautifullyRead more.
How to listen to slowness: Handel Minuet in G Minor
And sometimes like a gleaner thou dost keep Steady thy laden head across a brook; Or by a cyder-press, withRead more.
THE NATIONAL BOOK REVIEW: “How to See,” David Salle
Check out my review of David Salle’s How to See on the National Book Review.Read more.
Gregorian chants: an entry point into eternity
I have had friends, who are not religious and do not ever intend to become religious, who say that enteringRead more.
Vitae Summa Brevis Spem Nos Vetat Incohare Longam
Vitae Summa Brevis Spem Nos Vetat Incohare Longam (The brief sum of life forbids us the hope of enduring longRead more.
Reading Auden’s “The Fall of Rome”
This poem, it is said, was written when Auden was asked by his friend, Cyril Connolly, to pen a poemRead more.
Sri Lanka: I went away to hear myself
I spent a week with a friend in tropical paradise. I felt the same way I do whenever I visitRead more.
Review of John Irving’s “Until I Find You”
It may be pertinent that I was an Irving virgin. I was resentful most of the time I was readingRead more.
Why paying for art is an investment in yourself
My friend Paula Schramm is a full-time human, an celebratory label I attach to those who are more awake toRead more.
Why it matters that Mormon women don’t want to vote Trump
You are living in the most secular world that ever existed. Everyone still has an opinion about religion. It’s anRead more.
Conversations on Radical Integrity: The real reason dating sucks, and the secret to growing a great network
My friend Alison Traina is a coach, consultant, and all-around inspiring human being. She has the best tagline in theRead more.
Remembering my Italy, Elena Ferrante and female violence
I am ashamed that I never read Ferrante’s work until the recent media brouhaha over the self-appointed sleuth who wentRead more.
What I’m reading now: pretty buildings and feminine meltdowns
Yes, I am actively reading all four. At the same time. If you had ADD, you'd identify. Actually, even ifRead more.
Mid-October Notes: Life hurts and I’m mostly okay with it
1. Life hurts and I’m mostly okay with it The biggest revelation (and a surprise) of this year, myRead more.
I changed my mind about public speaking
I used to feel like everybody and their mom wants to be public speaker, like it was this trendyRead more.
Some impressionistic notes on the role of art
Increasingly, I think of art as a sublimation and transmutation of everyday cognition and waking experience into something greater and truer,Read more.
If you were wondering which elderly gentleman Simone is in love with now, allow me to introduce you to oneRead more.
What is love
What is love but a fever? The same unpleasant damp hotness, the same throat-scratching wind, the same way it devoursRead more.
Books: worth the paper they’re printed on?
Here is my new gauge for whether a book is worth the paper it’s been printed on, regardless of genre.Read more.
Screw youth. Older is better.
My friend David says, “you don’t necessarily get wiser with age, but you have more data.” You see that just because theRead more.
How to do feminism 101
My brother asked me a question. Korean society has a lot of feminist issues. I’m a man, but being your brother,Read more.
Positive success vs. negative success
I think there are two types of success, positive and negative. Positive success is what you can see, what isRead more.
Silence is a form of passion.
some wonderful thoughts, translated from Korean original 시골의사 박경철의 자기혁명 by yours truly. It’s easy to think ofRead more.
10 things I wish I knew when I started dating
Here are some truths I learned from dating and watching others date. 1. I have never seen love profitRead more.